The fact is, procrastination stems from avoidant thoughts. And those avoidant thoughts are often rooted in powerful and complicated emotions: uncertainty, fear of failure, overwhelm, guilt, fear of rejection, boredom/lack of motivation toward a goal that is not your own, performance anxiety, shame, and panic, to name a few common ones.

“The tricky, nefarious thing about procrastination is that it doesn’t happen in one big chunk,” said Laura E. Knouse, Ph.D., during her ADDitude webinar, “Stuck in Procrastination Mode? Turn Intention into Action with ADHD.” “Procrastination really accumulates over zillions of little, tiny avoidance moments.”

The first step to overcoming procrastination is recognizing when you are faced with an avoidant moment. Red flag may include thoughts like, “I’ll be able to focus better on this later” or “I’ll just clear some easy things off my plate first.” But it’s not always easy to catch yourself in an avoidance moment, and it’s even harder to interrupt or challenge one once it’s begun.

In her webinar, Knouse explained how to slowly, surely, and compassionately coach yourself through those pre-procrastination moments in order to close the gap between intention and action.

1. Question Whether Your Thoughts Are Serving Your Best Interests

Procrastination is often associated with negative automatic thoughts — like feeling shame or embarrassment over falling short on your gym goals, then escaping into your phone to calm those thoughts, which further delays or prevents exercise time.

But not all procrastination involves negative thoughts. Avoidance can be driven by deceptively positive thoughts like, “Oh, this will be easy; I don’t need to start now,” or “I can watch just one more episode and then do those dishes. I worked hard today and I deserve it.”

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2. Expect That You Will Experience Avoidant Thoughts

Knouse’s research shows that people with ADHD are more likely than their neurotypical peers to experience avoidant automatic thoughts (AATs) that drive procrastination. Common avoidant thoughts include “I do better waiting until the last minute” and “Being impulsive is a big part of who I am.”

College students with ADHD, for example, experience AATs 62% of the time, while college students without ADHD experience them 35% of the time. This matters because a higher number of AATs is associated with greater challenges with inattentiveness, distractibility, and task avoidance.

3. Begin by Noticing Your Thoughts

Changing your procrastination patterns won’t happen overnight, and most of the work is in noticing the thoughts that lead to procrastination, even if those thoughts seem benign.

The next step is to identify ways to engage in the task despite an avoidance thought. You can decide ahead of time, for example, to set a timer for 20 minutes (or any chunk of time that you can manage) to work on the task. Or you may cue up a pump-up playlist like this one recommended by webinar attendees.

Coaching yourself through the task is also important. Think to yourself (or, better yet, say out loud): “You only have to do this for ___ minutes.” Be supportive and realistic with yourself about what you can do.

For more strategies to overcome procrastination and dismantle avoidance patterns, watch the full webinar replay at additu.de/030526

How to Stop Procrastinating: More Resources

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• Read: How to Not Procrastinate When Task Avoidance Strikes
• Read: The Everyday Rationales That Let Procrastination In

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But people pleasing, as I and others with ADHD know, often results in little more than broken promises — to others, and to ourselves. People-pleasing behaviors like failing to set boundaries, readily assuming blame, and being overly agreeable for validation’s sake lead to unmet goals, dissatisfaction, burnout, and resentment.

What finally helped me address people-pleasing behaviors was a powerful reframe: I’m not pleasing people; I’m abandoning myself.

[Read: Self-Sabotage and ADHD — Are You Your Own Worst Enemy?]

It hit hard when I thought of how many times I’ve abandoned myself across my life, but I let this realization propel me to do better for myself.

How to Stop Abandoning Yourself

It takes time to unlearn people-pleasing tendencies. Start by asking yourself one question the next time you face a potential commitment: Does the activity nurture or drain my energy?

Depersonalize your response and try not to assign morality to the situation. Say your child’s school asks for volunteers to organize a bake sale. Instead of thinking, “I should volunteer because that’s what good parents do,” think of what it would require of you. Would you be able to volunteer and preserve enough energy to attend to your and your family’s needs at home?

As you set a boundary, remember that you can attend to activities in ways that meet your energy needs and values. The bake sale may be draining this time, but perhaps you can donate a store-brought treat to the event.

People Pleasing and ADHD: Next Steps

• Read: You Are Enough — How to Counteract ADHD Imposter Syndrome
• Read: When Perfectionism Stems from ADHD
  
• Read: 7 Self-Defeating Behaviors That Aggravate ADHD

This article was derived from the ADDitude ADHD Experts Webinar, “How to Accomplish Your 2026 Goals — One Day at a Time” with Caren Magill. Caren is an ADHD coach, entrepreneur, and YouTube creator.

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1. Is my dissatisfaction due to boredom with routine?

ADHD brains crave novelty. Could shifting projects or responsibilities add enough variety to re-energize you? Might there be a more stimulating role in your company, such as consulting as a problem-solver for coworkers when they feel stuck or responding to phone queries from clients?

2. Should I consider a career assessment?

A career assessment can clarify whether you’re in the wrong field or in the right field by the wrong job. It might also help discern whether your job could be a mismatch for your personality.

[Free Career Assessment: Find Your Passion with a Brain Blueprint]

3. Should I ask for accommodations?

Workplace accommodations can make a difference, but you only get what you research and request. Talk with your human relations department or your supervisor to uncover supports that could enhance productivity while lightening your load. These might include access to time-management and task-organization tools, a quiet workspace, flexible hours, or noise-cancelling headphones.

4. Am I creating my own stress on the job?

The emotional dysregulation of ADHD impairs both personal and professional relationships. If you explode in frustration, express resentment, or disagree harshly with colleagues or a boss, interpersonal stress can build until leaving feels like the only option. But before you reach that conclusion, remember: If you don’t address the patterns that created the stress, they will follow you into the next job too.

5. Pause and look inward. Mull over these questions:

• Can I repair strained relationships by clearing the air?
• Can I show that I’m building systems to meet deadlines more reliably?
• Can I acknowledge my past slip-ups and let coworkers know I’m working to change?
• Could shifting responsibilities allow my strengths to shine?
• Can I start focusing on the positives, appreciating the good things about my job, acknowledging the successes of my colleagues?

Sometimes, leaving really is the right move. But slowing down to consider these questions will help you choose wisely and with clarity.

“Should I Quit My Job?” Next Steps for ADHD Brains

• Free Download: What to Ask Yourself to Find the Perfect Job
• Read: 4 Steps to Claiming the Career You Deserve
• Read: “My ADHD Unleashed a Workaholic. ‘Quiet Quitting’ Is Saving Me.”

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Follow these six steps to approach your job interview with more clarity and confidence.

Step 1: Sync Up

Align your energy for peak performance. If mornings are tough, ask for an afternoon interview. If waiting all day makes you anxious, do the opposite.

Step 2: Read Up

Research the company and the job for which you’re applying. Anticipate questions about your experience and practice your answers out loud. This helps to catch rambling and sharpens your delivery.

[Read: Nail Your Job Interview – 3 Strategies for Neurodivergent Applicants]

Step 3: Illustrate

Highlight your strengths with quick success stories (no more than two minutes) that include this framework:

• What was your biggest challenge?
• What action did you take to address it?
• What was the result and why was it important?

ADHD brains love storytelling, but without structure, you’re likely to go on a tangent or get sidetracked. If you begin to drift, recover by deploying a reset phrase like, “To bring it back to your question…”

[Read: The ADHD Guide to Naturally Flowing, ‘Normal’ Conversations]

Step 4: Arrive Early

Avoid these common mistakes:

• Dressing inappropriately. Make sure your clothes align with the company’s culture. Casual vibes? Skip the suit and wear a button-down shirt with khakis. Corporate setting? A suit is best.
• Being late. Time blindness is a common obstacle for people with ADHD. For in-person interviews, set multiple alarms, build in buffers, and arrive 20 minutes early. For virtual interviews, sign on 10 minutes early and use the time to get in the zone.

Step 5: Brainstorm Questions

Be yourself. Authenticity builds trust. Show your enthusiasm and preparation by asking questions, such as:

• What does success look like in this role?
• How will this role impact the company’s goals?
• What challenges might your team be facing?

Step 6: Be Discerning

Do not disclose your ADHD diagnosis unless you’re interviewing with a company that values neurodiversity or the role involves disability inclusion, for example. Unfortunately, disclosure invites bias. Highlight your abilities, not your diagnosis.

Finally, interviewing for a job is a two-way street. Notice how you’re treated, how well the interviewer is organized, and whether their answers inspire confidence. Remember that walking away from a role you thought you wanted is tough, but working for a business that drains you is far worse.

Interview Tips for the Neurodivergent: Next Steps from ADDitude

• Quiz: Are You the Next Steve Jobs?
• Watch: “Best Jobs for ADHD Brains – How to Pinpoint Your Ideal Work Environment”
• Read: 4 Steps to Claiming the Career You Deserve

Larry Worth is a leader in disability inclusion and neurodiversity hiring at Rangam Consultants in New Jersey.

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Many people call this “time blindness,” but I prefer the term “time optimist.” You believe you can accomplish more than the rules of space-time allow. As a best-case-scenario thinker, you don’t always account for the little things that can throw you off course.

What’s the difference between time blindness and time optimism, you might ask? On the surface, not much — any form of inaccurate time estimation creates challenges in our lives and relationships. But there is an important distinction: “Time blind” is saddled with shame, something people with ADHD already face in abundance. “Time optimist,” on the other hand, is a positive reframing that reduces shame and makes feedback easier to accept.

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So, time optimist, how about channeling that ambition into these time-management strategies?

How Do You Feel Time?

How do you know when five minutes have passed? How do you sense it’s almost time to switch tasks or head out the door? Do you rely on an internal clock or do analog clocks and alarms help you see and feel time?

Whatever the method, it’s crucial to understand how you perceive time and which tools help you track it accurately. Think of an area of your life where your time estimates are more spot-on. What strategies or tools make that possible, and how can you apply them elsewhere?

Go Backward

Working backward from an event, activity, or deadline helps you refine your estimates by forcing you to consider every step involved. From the present, the future can look optimistically distant, but counting backward often tells a different story. It improves accuracy and promptness.

⏱️ Read: Losing Track of Time? 8 Ways to End ADHD Time Blindness

Be Real – and Patient

Better time-estimation and time-management systems come from practice and honest self-reflection.

Our time habits are deeply ingrained. Instead of trying to change overnight, ask yourself: What’s one small thing I can do differently to start shifting this pattern?

Expect to refine your approach slow, patiently and regularly. If you keep ignoring alarms meant to keep you on track, the system isn’t working — and that’s OK. Without shame, investigate why and experiment with other tools. Remind yourself that you want to be punctual most of the time because you value your time and that of others too.

Ever the optimist, look for signs of improvement rather than dwelling on missteps. Tell yourself, “I’m 15 minutes late — still not ideal, but better than last time. Now I know what to tweak for next time.”

The content for this article was derived from ADDitude’s “Solve My Problem!” sessions with Sharon Saline, Psy.D.

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Do you wage a constant battle with the urge to procrastinate — even when the tasks you’re putting off would move you toward a personally meaningful goal? Sometimes this ADHD-powered fight is conscious; at other times, you’re in avoidance mode without even realizing it. In these moments, recognizing the thoughts that divert your actions away from your intentions — “I’ll just do this other thing first…” “I’ll have more time to do that later…” –­– can be a crucial step toward turning those intentions into actions.

In this webinar, clinical psychologist and researcher Laura Knouse will share her latest research on ADHD and the in-the-moment thoughts that can divert your efforts away from your goal-oriented tasks. You’ll learn how to recognize your personal thought-feeling patterns and how to skillfully and compassionately navigate these pivotal moments.

In this webinar, you will learn:

• How in-the-moment thoughts and feelings can divert your efforts at progress toward your goals, often without your awareness
• How to recognize your most frequent thought-feeling patterns and triggers
• Practical strategies to overcome impulses to avoid and procrastinate
• How to coach yourself through these moments with skill and self-compassion

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Stop Procrastination: Resources

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    • Read: How to Not Procrastinate When Task Avoidance Strikes
    • Read: Do More. Procrastinate Less. Feel Great.

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Laura E. Knouse, Ph.D., is Professor of Psychology at the University of Richmond. She is an expert in studying and treating ADHD in adults. Her research focuses on the skills people need to cope with ADHD symptoms and achieve their goals — and the most effective ways to teach them. Dr. Knouse coauthored (with Russell A. Barkley, Ph.D.) Living Well with Adult ADHD. (#CommissionsEarned) She lives in Richmond, Virginia, with her husband and two children.
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The afternoon slump is a real biological phenomenon driven by the body’s internal clock, which influences attention, concentration, and alertness throughout the day.

Most of us experience a big dip in energy at bedtime to promote sleep, and a surge each morning to help us initiate our day. But there’s a secondary lull, typically between 1 and 3 pm, that occurs naturally (and regardless of whether you’ve eaten a big meal). This dip is measurable and observed cross-culturally, with many parts of the world recognizing and respecting it with siesta time – a break in normal activities.

The Afternoon Slump and ADHD

Some people with ADHD may not notice this dip in alertness; issues with proprioception or awareness of bodily cues – common with neurodivergence – may make these lulls easy to miss. (Difficulty gauging sleepiness, for instance, is one reason people with ADHD may have trouble getting to bed on time.)

For many, the natural dip becomes more obvious after beginning ADHD medication. There are a few reasons for this:

[Read: The Daily Missteps That Are Sucking Away Your Energy]

• Better attention overall. When symptoms improve, heightened attention improves proprioception.
• Medication wear-off. The natural afternoon slump may overlap with waning medication coverage, especially with immediate-release formulations. For example, a 7 a.m. dose that lasts up to eight hours would taper around midday or early afternoon.
• Increased productivity. Doing more while medicated can lead to greater fatigue by the afternoon.

Is It ADHD Medication Fade or True Siesta Time?

Because the two can coincide, experiment with the timing of your morning dose. If you feel the same lull even after shifting the dose, medication likely isn’t the primary factor. If changing timing helps, consider:

• Adding a second immediate-release dose before midday
• Switching to a long-acting formulation

Siesta Time Is Natural

Fluctuating energy throughout the day is part of normal human biology. What is an issue, at least in the United States, is acknowledging this real biological phenomenon. As much as our culture tells us to power through these lulls, understanding and respecting them, I believe, is an important part of managing ADHD. Ignoring them or pretending they don’t exist is just working against your biology.

[Read: How Toxic Productivity Leads to Neurodivergent Burnout]

Acknowledging siesta time doesn’t mean abandoning responsibilities. It may mean scheduling your lunch or movement breaks around these dips, steering clear of boring tasks during the slump, and tackling your most demanding tasks earlier in the day.

What about naps? A short one – 20 minutes and no more than an hour – helps some people manage without interfering with evening sleep. But if you’re a member of the ADHD majority with sleep problems, it’s best to avoid daytime naps.

Even if ADHD medication makes you more focused and productive overall, medication won’t make the naturally occurring afternoon slump disappear. A dip in performance is still to be expected, given our biological clocks. My philosophy: Don’t try to medicate your way out of siesta time.

Afternoon Slump: Next Steps from ADDitude

• Self-Test: Am I Suffering from Hurry Sickness?
• Read: How to Tell If Your ADHD Medication Is Working
• Read: What to Do When a Prescription Wears Off

This article was derived from the ADDitude ADHD Experts Webinar, An Adult’s Guide to ADHD Treatment Considerations, with John Kruse, M.D., Ph.D., and his video “Siesta Time for Mental Health.”

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Let me set the scene for you: I’m sitting at home, wearing a headset, taking calls for a psychic helpline. Yes, at the grand age of 30, I was moonlighting as a fake phone psychic. But I needed a job I could easily do from home, and this one sounded doable. And fun?

I’ve had many different roles throughout my life. I’ve been part of a cabin crew, sold wine over the phone, worked for an international charity, sold suitcases, reported as a freelance journalist, and worked at McDonald’s, a shirt shop, a toothbrush factory, and a garden center.

💡 Read: From Bowling-Alley Bartender to Cleopatra Waitress — My Story of ADHD Job Hopping

Now, in my latest incarnation, I’m finally doing something related to my degree. I’m a Ph.D. researcher attempting to understand the link between ADHD, gender, work, and entrepreneurship. Through my research, and for the first time in my life, I’ve met other women with the exact same story as mine. Despite often being labeled as gifted or having above-average intelligence, many women with ADHD seem to flounder and float around in the working world.

A checkered work history like mine seems to be so common among women with ADHD that I’ve come to see it as a shorthand sign of neurodivergence: Have you had 50 different jobs before the age of 30? If you answer yes, have you considered an ADHD evaluation?

A Nagging Sense of Wasted Potential

I make light of it, but it has always been a huge source of shame for me that, despite being told repeatedly how much “potential” I had, I could never distill it down to a traditional, fulfilling career. Not that there’s anything wrong with the odd jobs I had, only that I landed in them because I thought I couldn’t do more. And I couldn’t see myself fitting in anywhere else.

How relieved I was to find I wasn’t alone; research backs up that people with ADHD tend to work in jobs that are below their academic qualifications. Despite scoring higher in intelligence tests, they also have lower self-esteem than their peers.^{1 2}

💡 Read: “You Have So Much Potential. You Just Don’t Apply Yourself.”

Women with ADHD who are working in jobs far below their potential and academic credentials are only too familiar with this situation. I remember once while working as cabin crew, I asked a pilot the standard question of “Is your wife crew?” (It’s very common for pilots to marry cabin crew.) He looked at me, laughed, and said, “Oh, no. My wife is intelligent. She has a degree.” It felt like a punch in the gut.

We Deserve Fulfilling Lives

Learning that I had ADHD as an adult changed everything for me. It helped me understand my relationship to work and the fact that I — and many women — are navigating a world that largely wasn’t built for minds like ours. I’ve learned to forgive myself for my perceived failings, and I encourage women who see themselves in my story to do the same.

Unconditional acceptance of your strengths and areas of need, strategic self-advocacy, and out-of-the-box thinking (perhaps even entrepreneurship) are key. But it’s not just on us — workplaces would benefit from learning how to support neurodivergent employees, which may need to come at a public policy level. It’s my hope to help create pathways that support neurodivergent women in reducing shame and building fulfilling and autonomous professional lives that allow them to access their full potential.

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The never-ending nature of cleaning tasks makes getting started and staying motivated a perpetual challenge for most ADHD brains. Work and family obligations, competing distractions, exhaustion, overwhelm, and a lack of free time further contribute to incomplete chores. An untidy home may lead to feelings of shame, frustration, and incompetence.

This cleaning schedule, designed for ADHD brains, includes an easy-to-follow checklist organized by daily, monthly, semi-annual, and annual tasks to help you start and finish tidying your home (and do it all again).

In this download, you will learn:

• How to reduce overwhelm and keep your home tidy
• How to schedule cleaning tasks into your calendar
• Practical cleaning tips
• And much more!

“I hate brushing my teeth. It is boring, I never feel like I am doing it right, and I just forget all of the time,” says one ADDitude reader. “I have a lot of shame around it.”

And if it’s laborious for adults, oral hygiene is triply tough for kids. “They understand intellectually,” writes another reader about her kids’ teeth-brushing habits. “They just can’t make themselves do it.”

The end result? People with ADHD experience high levels of dental anxiety — about 23%, according to a report — compared to 12% of people without ADHD, causing a vicious cycle of avoidance and more oral health problems.

To halt the cycle tonight, try these ADHD-approved tips for making brushing and flossing less miserable.

💡 Read: Personal Hygiene Tips for ADHD Brains (and Bodies)

No More Pulling Teeth: How to Brush and Floss Consistently

“To get my 10-year-old with ADHD to brush her teeth, we body double as much as possible. It works well for me, also having ADHD, as it saves me spending the rest of my evening dreading the hell that is toothbrushing before bed.” — An ADDitude Reader

“I pack a travel-size toothbrush and toothpaste in my work bag. I hate flossing, but I buy those little rubber toothpick flosses and leave them by my bed, to use when I read at night.” — Tracey, Australia

“I stopped reserving flossing for nighttime, only. Any time is better than never, so I do it wherever I think of it.” — An ADDitude Reader

“Brushing my teeth long enough has been a struggle. I have recently discovered digital jigsaw puzzles. I work my puzzles while I brush. I get in 5 to 10 minutes, usually. At my last dental cleaning, the dentist was impressed because he had nothing to clean. I was out in 10 minutes.” — Wendy, Panama

💡 Read: How to Make New Behaviors Stick

“I have toothpaste and a toothbrush in the shower!” — Georgina, Uruguay

“I actually have toothbrushes and toothpaste at work so that I have no reason not to brush my teeth in the morning.” — Dawn, Illinois

“We have our 7-year-old grandson’s toothbrush, toothpaste, and five-minute timer in the kitchen. He brushes his teeth in the kitchen right after breakfast. His clothes are also laid out in the kitchen for him to dress immediately afterward.” — Deborah, Virginia

“Getting a Sonicare toothbrush has been the very best thing I’ve ever done for my teeth. It does the hard work for me and has a built-in timer… it’s as good as it’s going to get.” — An ADDitude Reader

“I started rewarding myself with YouTube videos for flossing. Flossing has given me more time to watch long videos before brushing.” — J, Oregon

“I let my kids brush their teeth in the living room while watching TV. (The bathroom is just around the corner.)” — An ADDitude Reader

“Brushing my teeth is so boring. What helps me get through it is doing something else at the same time, like making the bed.” — Pichi, New York

“I pace while brushing my teeth; something about standing in the bathroom without being able to leave is abhorrent. I also allow myself to stop brushing before my two minutes are up on days when two minutes feels like forever. My oral health improved significantly once I took those pressures off myself.” — Kathryn, North Carolina

“Flossing is so tedious, and there’s a million other things that I would prefer to do. I have learned to time myself to see if I can beat my record. I’m currently able to floss in 60 seconds, and I do a great job.” — Yvonne, California

“I have a calendar taped to my bathroom cabinet. Each day is split in half. After I brush my teeth, I color in one half. I am more dedicated to brushing my teeth because I want to see the month fully colored in.” — Amy, Missouri

“[We have] a plastic sign on the bathroom wall that reminds us to brush our teeth. It also has sliders to mark when we’ve brushed.” — Georgina, Uruguay

“An electric toothbrush, a preferred toothpaste flavor, a two-minute sand timer, and parent observation or tooth-brushing body double helps.” — An ADDitude Reader

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It begins in childhood and gains momentum through adulthood: the constant negativity and criticism from educators, parents, coaches, partners, colleagues, and others who fail to truly understand ADHD. Over time, that negativity turns into self-doubt, procrastination, and perfectionism — manifestations of a lifetime worth of feeling you’re not measuring up.

When we understand the impact of low self-esteem, and how it fuels procrastination, people-pleasing, and perfectionism, we can begin to counteract these behaviors with liberating solutions for a stronger, healthier self-image.

Join ADHD Productivity Coach Alan P. Brown, creator of the award-winning ADD Crusher™ ‘virtual coach’ video and audio program, for a candid presentation on how to overcome self-defeating behaviors.

In this webinar, you will:

• Understand the many reasons for why people with ADHD have low self-esteem, from our DNA to our childhood experiences to events in our adult life
• Learn why adults with ADHD are more likely than their neurotypical peers to struggle with the serious consequences of a poor self-image, including perfectionism, people-pleasing, and productivity
• Learn simple ways to begin chipping away at negative self-beliefs and strengthen self-image and confidence
• Learn how to let go of perfectionism, people-pleasing, and procrastination to get things done

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Alan P. Brown, is an ADHD coach and author. He created the award-winning ADD Crusher™ video program for ADHD teens/adults. Undiagnosed for decades, his untreated ADHD manifested in underachievement, substance abuse, and worse. Once diagnosed, he found it difficult to learn coping strategies from books, so he researched his own evidence-based “brain hack” strategies to fuel a successful advertising career and two start-ups. A featured conference presenter internationally and a TEDx speaker, he’s the #1 best-selling author of Zen and the Art of Productivity. (#CommissionsEarned) Get his eBook, “5 Things We’re Doing Every Day that Make Our ADHD Worse” at www.ADDCrusher.com.

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With each New Year, you’re committed to creating new habits, reaching personally important goals, and unlocking your productivity. Sometime in February, maybe sooner, motivation and energy fade, along with self-trust. A heavy dose of shame sets in. It’s the ADHD cycle of unresolved resolutions, and it ends here.

In this webinar, ADHD coach Caren Magill will explain a different way to approach goals and productivity in 2026. You’ll learn how to turn realistic intentions into sustainable goals with a plan that avoids burnout and self-blame.

In this webinar, you will learn:

• Why ADHD brains get stuck in the cycle of big dreams → quick burnout → self-blame
• How to shift from unrealistic to identity-based goals you can actually reach and sustain
• The importance of micro-steps, scaffolding, and nervous system regulation in daily follow-through
• Practical tools and supports that help habits stick
• How to reframe setbacks as data—not failure—and rebuild self-trust

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ADHD and Goals: Resources

• Resource Center: A New Year Guide for ADHD Brains
• Download: January 2026 Calendar of Small Steps
• Read: How to Forge Stick-With-It-Habits
• Read: 40 Brilliant Neurodivergent Life Hacks

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Meet the Expert Speaker

Caren Magill is an ADHD coach, entrepreneur, and YouTube creator who helps busy, ambitious brains build lives they love. Through her coaching, content, and practical tools, Caren blends compassion with straight talk to make goal setting and productivity feel less overwhelming and more doable. She’s passionate about helping people replace shame and self-doubt with clarity, confidence, and systems that actually fit who they are.

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Happiness is the best gauge of success, but it rarely comes from squeezing more into every spare minute. Instead, it comes from managing your time, energy, and attention in a way that helps you create and support a life you enjoy living.

To get there, you don’t need the usual laundry list of productivity hacks that focuses on output for its own sake. Rather, try to explore what it takes to build a fulfilling life even when ADHD throws obstacles in your way. Start here.

[Read: “What Should I Do with My Life?” Questions for Adults with ADHD]

How to Set Goals For Yourself with ADHD

Perform a Goals Inventory

Do your goals make sense? What are you working toward and why? Daily to-dos feel lighter when they serve a valued purpose.

• Whose goals are you chasing? Do you aspire to keep a photoshoot-ready house, or is that someone else’s priority? Let go of goals that don’t fit so you can focus on the ones that do.
• Does a delay make sense? Some goals are worth postponing until you have more bandwidth. This isn’t failure but an intentional decision based on your reality.
• Define reasonable progress. Rule of thumb: The bigger the goal, the slower and less consistent the progress will be. Set the bar by charting the trajectories of past successes.
• Ignore how everyone else does it. Neurotypical methods for getting things done rarely work for people with ADHD. Commit to systems and methods that work for you.

[Read: Stop Comparing Yourself to “Normal” People]

Resist the Pull Toward Negativity

Stop beating yourself up over productivity challenges. Entire career fields would disappear overnight if people just did what they were supposed to do.

• Extinguish defeating thoughts. “Ugh, I messed up” is a normal reaction if you’re running late. But ruminating on how you’ll never be a punctual person is unhelpful. Thoughts like “Should I have left earlier?” or “Is there anything I could have done differently?” are better.
• What’s the next good move? No matter what came before, focus on what’s in your control that brings you closer to your goals.
• Notice three recent wins. Regularly giving yourself credit builds a can-do attitude that drives progress.

Stack the Odds in Your Favor

A fulfilling life still involves tackling boring tasks. To make them less dreadful:

• Sweeten the deal. Queue up a playlist, call a friend, or reward yourself to make the task less painful.
• Avoid narrating your misery. This only magnifies the pain.
• Use tools. Stop gambling on memory; learn to make use of calendars, reminders, checklists, and other tools. Chunk tasks and take breaks. Don’t expect your executive functions to do more than they can.

How to Set Goals For Yourself: Next Steps

• Read: My 25 Rules for Life – A Practical Cure for ADHD Shame and Stagnation
• Read: Hurry Sickness and ADHD – How Toxic Productivity Leads to Neurodivergent Burnout
• Quiz: Are You the Next Steve Jobs?

Ari Tuckman, Psy.D., MBA, is a psychologist and the author of The ADHD Productivity Manual

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